Revamping for 2026

 Happy New Year!! 

I hope everyone had a wonderful New Year!  I decided to start my New Year off right with a plan so ..here are the things I'm excited about for 2026!

1.  My Savings plan - since I have paid off my daughter's wedding venue I decided to revamp my savings.  I have a lot more wiggle room now.  I currently have 5 savings running.  I made a one year plan and a 5 year plan.  I have an emergency, moving, taxes, car and my general fund for birthdays, vacations and Christmas.  Definitely investing more into my savings this year thanks to Bradley on a Budget, who I follow on Tik Tok. He has been a huge influence on saving more and spending less!!

2.  Stocks - investing more in stocks.  I have invested a small amount but planning to do some larger investments. 

3. Relationship - My relationship and future marriage.  More to come....God is good. 

4.  Moving - this year to my new home.  I'm am beyond excited to decorate!  More to come.... along with pictures. :-))   Finally!! But worth the wait! 

5.  Looking forward to buying my mother-of-the-bride dress this summer.  I'm planning to go to Tyler and hit all the wedding dress shops.  And possibly Dallas as well.

6.  My daughters wedding in October.  I am planning to take a week off work to help her with everything and to stay 2 nights in the cabin.  We each get a cabin of our own....all part of the package I paid for.  This will be the only vacation that I plan to take this year.

7.  My son coming back home -  I'm excited he will be home for Christmas this year.  We will be able to take family photos together for Christmas.  And that's always important to us mommas!!

8.  Working more on my eBay store with my mom.  We have been throwing around a few ideas, so feel free to stop by our eBay Shop.  I haven't done a lot with it yet but once I move I will definitely be adding items after I start thrifting.  I'm excited!

9. YouTube - After I get moved I want to start up my own Thrift Shopping YouTube Channel.  Highlighting what I buy and how I use it in my home or sell it on ebay.  I want to turn my channel into a paid income (side hustle). 

10.  Last but not least is decorating for Christmas in my new home.  It will all be worth the wait!!  Christmas with family at home is what I love and will end the year off with love. <3

Have a great year and plan your way into greatness!

A Woman Can Do Anything

 Since I've gotten divorced 5 years ago I feel there is seriously nothing I can't do and I truly mean that.  By the grace of God and with lots of prayer. 

My biggest fear when moving out was my vehicle.  Whether it broke down or a tire blew, I was unsure of how I was going to deal with it.  Kevin always handled my car issues, plus I had no savings when I first moved out on my own.  But, let me tell you ...you learn to handle things really fast.  Over the past five years I have learned to change a tire and have done it 3 times now in 5 years and I can get my spare on in under 10 minutes now.  I'm very keen to any changes in my vehicles performance, as well.  Not to mention I have a savings now for vehicle cost.  Even though I've had men in my life and currently do...they are not always available due to work or other things.  You have to learn to handle things as an adult

 Even when I was married I had learned to do things on my own.  Example...like when I bought my bed (that I so love) I had to drive to Dallas to pick it up.  I loaded it on the truck myself, I unloaded it at home, put the bed together all by myself and painted it.  Kevin wasn't always around to help and when he was he never wanted to.  I learned to be very independent even when I was married. 

All I can say is once you reach the point of not needing help you literally can do anything in life.  

Most successful women, nowadays, do not need men ....we choose men based on how they treat us. ❤️ 

BECAUSE we know even when married women still do the majority of the work.  💯 

Go out and be great today!!   

The Law & Torah are Condemnation and death

 The Law and Torah are condemnation and death.  Bible is very clear.  We are to surrender to grace not our own righteousness. 

Grace is salvation and life. 

The Law (works) & grace DO NOT MIX.  

*Romans 11:6 - if it is of works, it is no longer grace. 

If you try to combine the 2 .... you are considered LUKE warm to grace and if you are NOT sold out to the blood of Christ ALONE...God will say He never knew you. 

Jesus (grace) is the ONLY way! 

Grace is the narrow road. 

Now ya know!

Surrender your life to 

Grace through faith. 

Signs You Are Healing from People Pleasing

 The Holy Spirit gives you peace.

You set boundaries. 

You learn to say no. 

You stop justifying their behavior. 

You stop the behavior.

You allow God to bring justice.  

You crave peace and stand firm in it. 

You choose healthier people. 

You move forward with joy. 

You do you first. 

You do what brings joy to your life. 

Belonging

 I was reading from A Purpose Driven Life and in this book it says ... we are called to belong not just to believe.  We were created for community and fashioned for fellowship. 

This got me to thinking, yes we are.  

Looking back over the past 5 years of my divorce I can see how far I have have come.  I love my circle of friends, family and community.  Thinking of how setting these boundaries has given me a sense of peace knowing I am now surrounded by true friendships, trusted and honest friendships, and people who are meant to walk this life with me.  My circle may be small but I value those I have in my life.  New friendships and old. How blessed am I.  🥰

This journey through divorce has been a major learning experience that has truly opened my eyes and helped me to be the person I was meant to become. 

 We weed out what no longer serves us and that opens space for beautiful things to come in.  

It's like you finally start to see it all come together and how beautiful it is.  And I take no credit because God has been my rock through all of this. 

Who could ask for more. 

Many things coming I have kept quiet about so more blogs to come in the future.  I will be sharing all my joy with everyone and continue my journey through divorce. 

Hope this helps your journey and the direction you choose in life.  

Lots of love 💟 

Bullies

 This is such a great topic.  I want to share my experiences of going through divorce with others so it can help bring awareness and to help others move forward in a positive way so you don't drag it out like I did.  This journey has taught me so much and has put me in a place of control that I would have never had otherwise.  Control is key and you must set up control to have peace in your life.  You cannot move forward and accomplish anything in life if you are being held down by people who want to control you.  

I started these blogs not long ago because I finally feel like it's a good time to start helping others to take back control of their own lives.  The peace it's brought me is healing and others need to find this place of peace.  I have shared my story with a couple of friends who are now just going through their divorce and it has spurred me on to help teach people what I know. 

First:

Bullying and projection go hand in hand.  (see my other blogs) They are very closely related.  Like cousins.  If you have one, you will have the other.  

Where do I start ...let's start at the beginning.  I have been divorced now for 5 years but it has only been the last 2 years that I have started implementing my boundaries.  Do not let it drag out like I did.  It was a lesson learned for me.  

I have been down this road of being bullied by friends and family after going through a divorce.

Example:  my son came to me after my dad's funeral and let me know a certain family member had been talking badly about me to him.  And he proceeded to tell me the things that she said.  (this is passive aggressive behavior) and I did not deal with it at that time when I should have.  

Second: 

Bullying will come in many shapes and sizes so your first task is to recognize it .... 

Things to look for is a change in behavior from the person, beratement, putting you down, negativity, gossip, trying to control you with discouragement or just bashing everything you do.  They will try to get others to see you in a negative way.  Be diligent in watching for these signs.  You will need to jump into action as soon as these issues pop up.  Do not let it drag out.  It will only cause you more problems.  Learn from my mistakes.  I let issues go I should have jumped on immediately. 

Once you have discernment of who they truly are set up that boundary.  They will learn that there are consequences to their actions.  And make it known to others that you have a bully in your mix so they to can put a stop to ugly behavior.  Name them one by one.  

Go and read my other blogs and it will tell you how to handle the situation once you recognize the behavior.  

Hope this helps your journey. 

You are the controller of your life. 

Enjoy your life by your own parameters.  

Have a great day 😊 

Peoples Purpose

 I was reading the book, Embraced By The Light By Betty Eddy, who had a near death experience and went to heaven.  In her book she stated and explains how God gives each of us a purpose that is to be fulfilled.  

It was revealed to her and this is what she said....

Here's some perspective...the drunkard who was on the street outside the lawyers office was there to remind the lawyer to have a heart of compassion.  The drunkards PURPOSE in life was being fulfilled as God had intended.  We all have a mission in life that is beyond our understanding.  We are all put in certain situations in life that will push us towards our purpose.  

With that being said when a person fulfills their purpose it brings glory to God.  

So for us to judge someone when we don't know their purpose is only hurting ourselves and possibly destroying their mission. 

So very interesting seeing it from God's perspective.  We think we know or understand a situation when in reality we really don't.  And that's why God says to not lean on your own understanding but put your faith in Him. 

And now you know. :-)) xoxo

Projection

 This goes a long with my previous blogs 

Giving your Opinion

 This is such an important lesson in life. 

I am all about nipping things in the bud before they get out of hand.  You are responsible for you.

You can never accurately give an opinion on a subject regarding someone else's life when you are not walking in their shoes, physically, financially, spiritually, and  emotionally... walking through what they deal with from day to day.  You receive a certain amount of information outwardly but you are not living it.  

To give your opinion on a subject that you do not walk out physically.... is like reading 25% of a book and trying to write a book report in detail on the book.  You will be missing vital details you were not aware of. 

I have come so far in my journey through divorce.  I wouldn't be where I'm at today if it wasn't for this journey.  I praise God for that.  It has truly moved me into a beautiful place in life.  I have learned many things.  Most of all is putting my needs first.  When you learn to stop people pleasing it changes the direction of your life.  And then you can recognize that you are not obligated to live out the advice of others that haven't fully read the book.  It's a game changer.  

IT'S A GAME CHANGER!!

With the help of my friend Lisa who is a therapist, I have been able to walk out the journey that is for me. 

Hope you have the courage to walk out the journey that is for you. 

✌️

Never allow someone to play God over your life.

 It's my 5 year anniversary of being divorced.  💕 💕 Count it all joy. 

This topic came up when I was talking to my friend Lisa, who is a therapist.  I have gotten a lot of great advice from her over the years but I was discussing with her how I handled this issue (see title) in my own life and I want to share this so it helps others.  I want everyone to have the same peace and control I have in my own life. 

Hope this helps your journey in life. 

God never sets anyone as God or ruler over your life.  When these things happen it destroys the work God is doing in your life or someone else's.   We have to recognize it for what it is and it is narcissistic behavior and that's straight out of a therapist mouth.

Here are the steps I used to deal with this in my own life and a lot of the things I implemented came straight from Lisa.

Step by step:

1.  I prayed Isaiah 54:17 daily against all who came to me as God, ruler, false friendship, pretending to care, plain out enemies or looking for info and to gossip.  To me this is the most important step.  

2.  I recognized the behavior for what it is: narcissistic, jealousy, envy or just unrest or unhappiness in the other person.  Like Lisa said, these behaviors are never about you.  Never internalized others behaviors.  Keep your own bubble at peace.

 3.  I set a boundary, immediately, with no exceptions.  Period.  This is an extremely important step.  All of this started with my divorce back in 2020.  As Lisa said, when you go through a transition in life you will have low vibration people coming at you. Nine times out of 10 it is always during a transition in life when you are LEVELING UP your life. She said, there will always be those who will oppose it for their own reasons.  Mostly, she said, it is due to the unhappiness in their own lives.  

4.  Walk away.  You know what's best for your life.  

******After you have done these steps just watch and wait. 

These are the things I saw in my waiting. 

1.  Apologies will come. 

2.  You will see the person for who they really are.  

3.  God will exaggerate their problems until they can't focus on anything but their own problems.  

4.  God will give you favor. 

5.  God will bless you in front of your enemies. 

Hope this helps your journey in life. :-)

And remember... you are responsible for keeping your own bubble at peace.  Be vigilant.  Be strong.  Be at ✌️ 🕊️.  

P.S.  You can read my other blog post on boundaries which goes a long with this. 

 

Something I learned

 I have been divorced now for almost 5 years and I can honestly say it has been the most peaceful time of my life even through the ups and downs.  But what I wanted to share most is what I have learned from a friend who is a therapist.  We were talking recently I have learned to value her advice so much. 

She has taught me, and I hope this helps you, that we all live in our own "space" or "bubble" as she calls it.  We as adults are solely responsible for our own bubble.  No one else is responsible for it, not even your spouse.  So when your bubble is in unrest with unhappiness, anger, bitterness or anything that isn't peace or rest then you as an adult are required to make a change.  So that is what I did when my bubble was not where it needed to be.  

Through divorce I have found joy, life, peace, rest, happiness, abundance etc ... And I have learned even when life has its ups and downs that it is me who is responsible to fix my bubble.  But the most important thing she said is when others project their emotional issues on you because their bubble isn't at peace (example they may project hate, anger, dislike, jealousy or any emotion) into your bubble to disrupt your bubble, it is on you to SET UP BOUNDARIES.  You must let them know that you will not be accepting their projections.  Maybe someone doesn't like something you are doing in your life... that is their bubble in unrest even though your bubble is at peace.  So they project their unrest into your bubble but we are to stop those projections.  NEVER allow a projection to disturb your peace.  

This has changed how I look at others.  I see their unrest as issues they are not dealing with in a mature adult way so they project it on you so you will stop making them "feel" unhappy with what they SEE,  when they are responsible for their bubble.  Just because someone sees something they don't like, doesn't mean you are required to change to make their bubble at peace.  Once again they are responsible for their own space.  

99% of the time it's not you they really have a problem with, it is just their own internal unhappiness.  

Set boundaries. Walk forward.  Stand firm and discipline those who know no boundaries like you would a child.  And let them know there are consequences to their actions.  Then follow through.   

By keeping your bubble from others harmful attacks you will keep your own bubble at peace.  🩷